tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8388919069361390275.post570014197408732635..comments2024-03-20T12:49:47.592-07:00Comments on Lessons From The Phantom of the Opera© and Other Phantom Ramblings: LairVicki Hopkinshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07268510221608107264noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8388919069361390275.post-15117425756390757102012-11-10T05:03:07.915-08:002012-11-10T05:03:07.915-08:00When I was younger, I had no trench, gate, anythin...When I was younger, I had no trench, gate, anything around my 'lair', nor did I cover myself away with a metaphorical 'mask'. I let everyone in, trusted every person (so naive, I know. But I was very young), this has caused me a lot of harm... as people used to come in and hurt me. Look at me, laugh me, mock me, for who I am. Because of all this I have closed myself completely, and let no one in anymore. I became distant to people, cold, they couldn't see who I was, I wouldn't let them... and IF someone managed to get in I'd snap, burst into a rage that wouldn't do under for Erik's, and when the intruder had finally left, I would crumble, collapse, and cry, cry my heart out. Because after all... all what I wanted was to let people in, to have them see me as who I was, but I was too afraid, too afraid that they would hurt me, dislike me... so I kept the gates locked shut. <br />In that sense, I'm exactly like Erik, and maybe that's why I can relate to him so much. When I see POTO I can just feel him in my heart, being there.<br />Lately I've been unlocking my lair a bit though. And even though I've never let anyone fully in ever since, I am slowly removing all the locks I've set... <br />But I think I'll keep the lake :) as I need privacy too, after all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8388919069361390275.post-84283399130835578732010-08-29T19:35:29.981-07:002010-08-29T19:35:29.981-07:00A few years ago, without realizing it, I had built...A few years ago, without realizing it, I had built a trench around my own lair. Before I knew it I found myself completly alone beacuse I refused to let anyone in. Perhaps more so than Erik - at least he had Christine, even though he hadn't let her completly in.<br /><br />It took a long time for me to lern that I need to let people in. I still struggle with it some days and find myself slipping into weeks where I hide in my lair and shut everybody out.<br /><br />Boundaries are needed. They protect us from those who want to harm us, but if we are not careful they also keep those who want to help us out as well.Christine B.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8388919069361390275.post-22018059610461325722009-03-17T02:47:00.000-07:002009-03-17T02:47:00.000-07:00Very nice Blog !!! i found your blog just two days...Very nice Blog !!! i found your blog just two days ago . Fantastic story.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8388919069361390275.post-67165528828510240302009-03-13T14:56:00.000-07:002009-03-13T14:56:00.000-07:00I'm sure you know this hits close to home. I've ye...I'm sure you know this hits close to home. I've yet to dig my trench, but I'm trying. I've got more than enough tears to fill it when I'm done, but thanks for getting me started on the digging.<BR/><BR/>-JulieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8388919069361390275.post-18517013591930787612009-02-21T10:30:00.000-08:002009-02-21T10:30:00.000-08:00I love the symbolism in this post and find it to b...I love the symbolism in this post and find it to be completely true.<BR/><BR/>My lair must be protected with a lake full of crocodiles. I cannot say I've ever thrown a single person on this Earth a paddle. Maybe one or two people unknowingly, but I tend to keep my philosophical side in my head or in my writings (that anyone rarely sees.) I think that is a large part of my existence, and rarely does anyone come across it.<BR/><BR/>I really do enjoy all of these posts, and hope that you will <I>always</I> find another part of the story to dissect. I find myself thinking "Wow, I thought that, too!" quite often throughout your blog, and I'm still on the first page!<BR/><BR/>~HaleyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8388919069361390275.post-79556659121407272672008-12-15T14:27:00.000-08:002008-12-15T14:27:00.000-08:00Hi, I just wanted to say how much I love your blog...Hi, I just wanted to say how much I love your blog. I found it about a week ago, and have since taken time to read every single one of your posts. Thank you for the thought you put into finding the symbolism in such a fantastic story.<BR/>Best regards,<BR/>Lady Brainsample, fellow PhanaticLady Brainsamplehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08903010949657769356noreply@blogger.com